They say that everyone loves a bad boy, but nothing is more irresistible than a bad girl! Bad Girl’s Guide to Love explores the ins and outs of dating, love and relationships from former good girl gone bad, Dr. Ayo Gathing. After having her heart stomped on for the last time, Dr. Ayo learned how to ditch her good girl habits to get the love she deserved. Now it’s your turn to have the man of your dreams worshipping you and wanting you all to himself.Â
Dr. Ayo holds nothing back while blending psychological principles with her own crazy dating life lessons to bring you key tips and expert advice from a bad girl’s perspective. Bad Girl’s Guide to Love uses real world scenarios, Q & A as well as interviews with special guests to help you master the art of unleashing your inner bad girl to find love and dominate all phases of your relationship journey.
How to Get Over a Devastating Breakup
If you have ever lived or loved at all you have likely been through the dreaded event of a breakup. Some seem to rebound fairly quickly, but for others it seems like you just can’t shake it or move on. Whether your relationship is still dying a slow death, ended recently or it has been years; getting over a breakup can be hard. I discuss why breakups can be so difficult and share key tips for how to move on in this week’s
You can Avoid Being Ghosted!!!
If you have been in the dating game for any amount of time, you know about the phenomenon of ghosting. The complete disappearance of the guy that you have been dating with absolutely NO warning!! But what if I told you that you can avoid being ghosted? Do not miss this week’s episode, I will share the reasons being getting ghosted and how to prevent it in the future. Tune in!
Right to Real Love
We’re doing something different this week. I was a guest on Right to Real Love, the number one relationship podcast for Christians. You can listen to the entire interview, uninterrupted on this episode.
How to Handle Conflict in Your Relationship
Every relationship is going to encounter conflict. It is inevitable. If you are trying to avoid conflict or worried that you do not have healthy conflict resolution skills within you relationship…this episode is for you! I will teach you how to identify unhealthy communication patterns and maladaptive conflict as well as teach you some healthy conflict resolution skills. Whether you are dating or have been married for years, this is for you!
How to Know When to Walk Away From a Toxic Situation
There have been a number of celebrity stories breaking recently regarding cheating, abuse and overall relationship scandals. Everyone has their opinion, but the real question is..should they walk away? This week I discuss how to recognize when you are in a toxic relationship and tips on when to think about walking away.
GO Get Yours! How to Get What You Want with Ivy Box
Is your life not where you thought it would be? Do you desire more for yourself in all things, including love? If so, this episode is for you. This week I will be sitting down with former reality star, author and marketing genius- Ivy Box who will discuss her latest book The 365 Go Get H.E.R.S. Guide which aids women (and men) achieve their wildest dreams. Her belief is that the sky is only the beginning, not the limit, and that you can get what you want and make it happen.
The Myths of Dating an Alpha Woman
Are you a Bad Ass in life and your workplace, but have trouble with dating or love? It may be because of society’s expectations of women and the myths of how an alpha female may operate within a relationship. Check out this episode where I discuss and debunk the myths of dating an alpha woman. Alpha women (and all males) do not want to miss this one.
To Shack or Not to Shack? That is the Question…
Cohabitation is a major move for a relationship and is a hot topic! With the cost of living going up faster than ever, it is something that many consider. Are you thinking about moving in with your mate, but aren’t sure if it is a good idea? Is your goal to get the ring and you consider living together just another stop on the road down the aisle? Let’s talk about living together! Is it a good or bad idea? Does it ruin your chances for marriage? Do not miss this episode!
How Important is Physical Attraction in a Relationship?
Thinking about stepping outside of your typical dating box? Or maybe you are interested in a guy, but he just doesn’t give you all the feels?? If you are wondering how important it is to be physically attracted to someone for your relationship to work, this episode is for you! I will break down the science behind attraction and some of the latest research on attraction and appeal in relationships.
Ditch the “Should’s” to Have the Love you Deserve
Are you constantly frustrated with your love life? Do you feel like things are not going the way you planned or expected them to? Well this episode is the one for you. After re-watching a hilarious episode of HBO’s Insecure, I discuss how magical thinking and the curse of the “should’s” may be ruining your love life.
How to Keep it Sexy in Your Relationship
The stability and consistency of a relationship are two of the most attractive things about finding the one. But, they are not all what a relationship should be about! It is important to keep the spice and connection between you alive. In this week’s episode I discuss how to prevent slipping into the habit of just being comfortable in order to keep your relationship sexy!
How to Navigate Out Earning Your Partner
More often than ever before, women are earning more than their partners. Recent statistics show that 40% of wives earn more than their husbands. But what does this mean for relationship dynamics? Can a partnership survive a woman making significantly more money than her mate? I discuss this shift in economics and the changing tide of our country. I also give tips on how you can navigate out earning your partner.
Dating Discerningly…A Discussion About Celibacy and Godly Dating with Emily McKnight
You may be a bad girl who is confident and goes after what you want, but if you are a Christian or Woman of God that means making tough decisions surrounding your intimate life. In this week’s episode of Bad Girl’s Guide to Love, I have an interesting and informative chat with relationship expert and author Emily McKnight. We discuss intimacy, celibacy and how to date discerningly. We also talk about the importance of courtship. You do not want to miss this!
How to Nail Your First Date and Leave Him Wanting More
Have you been on numerous first dates with no luck? Are you getting ghosted or had one too many guys fizzle out? Maybe there is something going awry during your first date or interaction! First dates can be anxiety provoking, but they don’t have to be! This week’s episode of Bad Girl’s Guide to Love covers how to rick your first date and be sure to have him interested. I also help a listener figure out what has been going wrong on her first dates after a long term relationship.
How to Have a Fling and Do it Right
Does the idea of a serious relationship right now sounds exhausting? Do you need some time to focus on other areas of your life? If you are in a place where you want to date and get to know someone but not have anything serious or formal, a fling may be for you. But having a fling is not as easy as it sounds! In this episode of Bad Girl’s Guide to Love, I give tips for having a fling and doing it right. I also help a listener figure out what sort of relationship she is ready for and how to move forward.
The Secrets to Online Dating Like a Boss
Have you been dating online with no success? Or maybe you are thinking about dating online, but haven’t yet given it a shot? Well if so, this episode is for you. I give you the key tips for how to effectively date online and find the one for you! If you are looking for love, you do not want to miss this one.
Attracting Your Ideal Mate and Weeding Out the Good Guys with Cheyenne Bostock
Who said dating had to be hard? When you have the correct thought process and guidance in place, you can find the guy that is right for you and not waste time with the ones that are no good. In today’s episode of Bad Girls Guide to Love I chat with life coach, relationship expert and bestselling author Cheyenne Bostock who will drop knowledge regarding how to attract your ideal mate and how to weed out the good men from the bad ones. We also discuss his four bestselling books!!! Do not miss out on this episode or his offer for a free coaching session by heading over to his website
Relationship Resolutions for 2018
No matter what your status, the new year is the perfect time to address the things that have been holding you back or getting in the way of your relationship satisfaction. Just like developing a new eating plan or workout routine, mapping out a new and improved approach to your relationships is essential. It is time to leave last year in the dust and move forward. Here are six relationship resolutions for 2018 to get you started that will guarantee you more success in your relationships.
Asking For What You Want in a Relationship
The start of the year is the perfect time to learn new relationship skills, and asking for what you want in a relationship is an essential one to know! It is so easy to get swept up in the chemistry of a situation or go with the flow, but you then end up played or unfulfilled. In this week’s episode I discuss the importance of asking for what you want in a relationship and give tips on how to do it. I also help a listener who has been waiting for over two years for her boyfriend to propose.
Release Toxic People to be Happy
The end of the year is a great time to assess how things have been going in your life and the people who made it better or special. It is also great to take an inventory of the people that brought drama or negativity to your life. No matter how much you care about or love someone if they are not making your life better or bringing you down, it may be time to reevaluate their place. You have to address and possibly cut off the folks that are holding you back. In this week’s episode I discuss how toxic people affect you and why you may need to release them from your life. I also shed light on a situation of a listener with an unpredictable and abusive boyfriend.
How to Enjoy the Holidays after a Breakup
The holidays are supposed to be a time of cheer and celebration! But what happens when you are dumped right before the “most wonderful time of the year?” This week I discuss why it is so hard to be alone during the holidays, share a personal story of being dumped right before thanksgiving and give sound advice for how to enjoy the holidays after an untimely holiday breakup. If you have ever been through a breakup, especially around the holidays, this episode is for you!
Redefining Manhood and the Shifting Relationship Culture with King Jay Barnett
King Jay Barnett is not your average former NFL Football Player! He is a motivational speaker, author and mental health advocate. He has been open and honest about his story focused on his struggle with depression, and using his platform to create a dialogue about the stigma of mental illness, self-love and success in youth, men and women. In today’s episode we discuss what it means to redefine manhood, the shift in relationship culture and gender role expectations.
Date Multiple People to Find the One
If you are still dating one person at time before a commitment, then this episode is for you! Dating multiple people has so many benefits and has actually been shown to help you find the person that is right for you in the long run. This week I talk about my personal experiences with dating multiple people, share my thoughts on Spike Lee’s “She’s Gotta Have It,” and discuss a few of the many benefits of dating multiple people. I also give advice to a listener in a small town who is having trouble meeting even one guy that is right for her.
Manifest That Sh*t with Latoya Beverly
On today’s podcast we will discuss how to manifest the life and relationship that you want with beautiful and talented Spiritual Success Coach Latoya Beverly. We cover relationships down to the nitty gritty with topics such as how to go after what you truly want, how childhood trauma affects you, healing after heartbreak and more! Latoya also shares her past experiences in order to inspire you to be your best self in life and in love.
All Things Online Dating and Mating with Damona Hoffman
Have you been dating online with limited success or numerous horror stories? If so, this episode is for you! No more losing at love or blindly swiping. This week, certified dating coach, radio host and TV personality Damona Hoffman gives her amazing tips and tricks for winning at online dating and discusses her top rated Dates and Mates with Damona Hoffman Podcast on iHeart Radio. She has shared her knowledge with the masses as a host and relationship expert on FYI Network’s#BlackLove and A+E’s A Question of Love as well as numerous television and print media, and now she will now join us to drop some knowledge about online dating.
Idealizing Love
Knowing what you want is key, but what happens when your goals are an idealized version of what is possible? We have been sold so many dreams and given so many messages of what to expect out of our partner and our relationships from various outlets, which impacts what we expect out of love. In this episode, we will explore how leading with your ideal expectations when choosing a mate and determining satisfaction within your relationship can cause you to end up alone and on the sidelines of love.
Recognize When You are Too Good
Being a bad girl means refusing to settle for less than you deserve. In this week’s episode of Bad Girl’s Guide to Love, I discuss how to recognize when you are too good for someone or a situation. I also give you tips that help to clue you in on situations that are unhealthy or may not be right for you. I then help a listener figure out if she should marry her boyfriend after recently getting engaged.
Recognizing the Game to Avoid Getting played
One reason nice girls often finish last is because they do not recognize when they are being played. Always seeing the best in people seems like a great quality, but can be detrimental to your dating life. Being able to decipher what men are out for themselves versus the ones that have good intentions is key in avoiding misery and heartbreak. This week we will chat with mental health professional Erin Alexander Edwards about her reformed good girl ways and how you can avoid getting played!
Enjoy the Single Experience
Single women often idealize marriage and motherhood. Much of the marriage experience is glamorized, so getting to it becomes the ultimate goal and prize. But, there are many positive things about being single and the dating phase of relationships that are minimized! Today we discuss why you should stop obsessing about getting married and enjoy being single while you can. I then help a listener with her one track mind on marriage and explore the ways she can make the most of her single years!
Winning at Life, But Losing at Love
If you are a successful woman with a lifetime of accomplishments, yet find yourself struggling in the relationship space…this episode is for you! There is an epidemic of amazingly talented women having trouble finding the love that they want and deserve, but is some of it within your control? This week I explore the concept of taking charge and winning in your dating life the way you do your professional life through a coaching call with Carmen, a successful woman that can’t figure out why she keeps losing at love. Listen and learn!
From Self Love to Love Languages with Coach Gwen
You must build a healthy relationship with self before you can have a healthy relationship with someone else. Self-love and awareness are crucial to bringing your best to the table once you enter a relationship. This week, I discuss the ins and outs of self-care, signs of healthy vs. unhealthy relationships, as well as why women struggle to show themselves grace with Coach Gwen Hodrick. We also dish on the 5 Love Languages and why they are more relevant now than ever!
Use the Right Bait When Dating
Women often try to attract a man based on the things they like about themselves, but men are looking for something completely different! Ladies, you are actually working too hard and missing the mark on how to land the man of your dreams. You have to serve up what men are really looking for, not what you value about you. This week, I discuss the differences in what men and women are looking for and share the key things that men desire in a woman. Once you present these you will lock down that man and be irresistible to him. I then help a listener discover why she is not presenting as a good catch to men and coach her on how to make a change.
Winning the War on Love with Alex Merritt
Today’s guest on The Bad Girl’s Guide to Love is my friend and colleague – The Love Engineer, Alex Merritt. Alex uses her engineering background in applying scientific methods to matters of the heart. Join us as we talk through how she finds practical solutions to your problems in love and dishes on her new relationship game “The War on Love.”
Trusting Your Gut
We often ignore what is right in front of us because we want to be happy so bad. You have to pay attention to the cues, trust your gut, and be honest with yourself when it comes to dating. In this episode of The Bad Girl’s Guide to Love I candidly share dating stories… feel free to laugh — or cry — along with me! I will also respond to a letter from a listener who is in a sticky dating situation and needs some guidance. You do not want to miss this one!
Be a Leading Lady, Not a Side Chick
We often stay in situations that are beneath us because of the fear of being alone or not being good enough for something better. You have to know your worth and resist the temptation to settle for less just to be with someone. This week I discuss the societal pressure to be coupled and its effect on our choices in relationships (even mine in the past!) I also provide tips for how to avoid the life of a side chick and help a listener that is struggling in her dating situation.
Losing Your “Good Girl”
Welcome to The Bad Girl’s Guide to Love! I am so excited to share this podcast with you. I’m Dr. Ayo Gathing — board certified psychiatrist, bestselling author, and health and relationship expert. I’m going to guide you through your journey to lose your “good girl” and unleash your inner bad girl in order to find love. I combine psychological principles along with personal and professional experiences to bring you the best advice possible from a bad girl perspective. Say goodbye to your boring love life and hello to the bad girl lifestyle.
Date Like You Don’t Give A Sh!t
You NEED to know your value! Today on The Bad Girl’s Guide to Love, I’m going to share key tips and expertise surrounding how to keep your priorities in mind while dating. Men love a confident woman that knows what she wants in life, so stop neglecting yourself! I will teach you how to stop caring so much about others and pay more attention to your own needs. I will also answer your questions and address how difficult it can be to put yourself first.
Be About Your Business with Katy Flatau
A bad girl is confident and knows what she wants out of life, so doesn’t sit around waiting for things to happen. Do not be afraid to switch it up with changes or even make some waves in your pursuit of purpose and love. This week I chat with life and business coach Katy Flatau who discusses her leap of faith from corporate America to entrepreneurship as well as her new lease on life and love. More information on Katy and her coaching solutions at mindful-u.com. Bad Girl’s Guide to Love with Dr. Ayo listeners receive free access to Katy’s popular online workshop on “How to Make More Confident Decisions” at mindful-u.com/badgirl