Marrying when economically stable, is it worth the wait?

There are many reasons that it is wise to wait for marriage.  Among them, couples that marry later tend to have a lower divorce rate.  Delaying marriage until you are economically stable removes one of the most popular stressors that couples who do not wait face, financial issues.  Finances are one of the leading causes of divorce, so avoiding these burdens makes a relationship more resilient.  Having additional dollars to rely on in challenging times can improve quality of life as well as relationship satisfaction.

Entering a marriage as economically stable partners also increases the likelihood that mates will communicate about money.  When both spouses contribute monetarily, there is more open dialogue and less division regarding finances.  Economically stable couples are more likely to work together to make fiscal decisions such as developing a budget, paying bills, and planning for the future.

However, there are advantages to getting married prior to economic stability.  Studies show couples marrying earlier help one another become economically settled.  Splitting bills, sharing resources, and providing support allows both partners to build more wealth.  Economically unstable couples will face more financial pressures, especially early on.  But if the marriage endures these fiscal trials, both partners will see monetary gains in the long run.

What difference does it make?

Marrying later brings together two individuals that have their own routines, values, and gender role definitions.  The phenomenon of delayed marriage is having a large impact on the evolution of gender roles.  Men and women have now been living independently longer, so are more comfortable with domestic tasks.  While household duties are primarily considered a female responsibility, men are now aspiring to be more hands-on fathers and women are more open to being primary breadwinners. Despite these shifts, many spouses continue to desire traditional responsibilities.  Gender roles expectations and threats to identity have become one of the leading causes of conflict within modern marriages, especially those later in life. Financial stability in both partners does not mean alignment in gender role ideals. These discrepant paradigms in gender responsibilities can present discord in relationships if left unresolved.

Another impact that delayed marriage has is its impact on conception.  Marrying and procreating later have led to a surge in couples dealing with infertility.  Infertility increases slowly across a woman’s lifespan, and rises dramatically over the age of 35.  Advances in technology have allowed more flex­ibility in creating and building a family for later-life couples, but come with numerous stressors and a hefty price tag.

It all comes down to marrying when you feel that you have met someone that can be your life partner and are ready to make that commitment.  Whether you build a fortune together or split it later in life, the key to marriage success is still good ole’ communication!

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